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Remember when grown folks used to say "If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all?" Apparently there are a growing number of celebs who've made throwing stones at other celebrities such a habit its now become a part of their resume - despite the fact they too live in glass houses.

Rosie O'Donnell has exhibited a past penchant for dumping on stars, but most recently she's been dumping on one Star -- literally. Okay, sure, the thought probably crossed several millions of people's minds that former "The View" co-host, Star Jones-Reynolds, had undergone some sort of medical procedure to lose the large amount of weight she's taken off this past year. But it was O'Donnell who felt like it was her job to take Ms. Star to task verbally - in the very public forum of her personal website blog.

"Any fatty will tell you, it is nearly impossible to go from where she has to where she is without medical intervention," O'Donnell reportedly wrote. "Star Jones had weight loss surgery, she had part of her stomach bypassed, that is how she lost 1/2 herself. She refuses to say this, but we do not have to pretend we do not know."

Crack!!! Talk about throwing stones while living in that glass house...

Perhaps Jones-Reynolds believed that what she does with her body behind closed doors is actually her own business - much the same way O'Donnell felt about what she did with her body behind closed doors all those years before she publicly came out of the closet. How many times might someone have said, "She refuses to say (I'm gay), but we do not have to pretend we do not know."

And say, just say, we do know. So what? That does not give one license to become the town crier.-unless, of course, someone's actions are affecting the peace and wellbeing of the free world. Which is what O'Donnell probably imagined she was doing when she ambushed Tom Selleck for being a member of the National Rifle Association on her talk show back in 1999. Sure you say, it was her forum. But Selleck was under the impression he was on to promote a movie at the time not defend his own personal beliefs.

Speaking of personal beliefs run rampant, Tom Cruise is another celeb seemingly intent at times on getting all up in somebody else's Kool-Aid - without even knowing the flavor. Cruise surprised everyone - including Brooke Shields - when he publicly took her to task for using anti-depressants in her battle with postpartum depression. Is he Brooke Shields' daddy? Is he Brooke Shields' husband? Was he ever even Brooke Shields' friend? No, no and no. So why Tom? Why? Why was it okay to voluntarily and publicly voice your own personal feelings about Shields at all? If it's true what the Indians believe that we can only know someone by walking a mile in their moccasins, then only another woman who's actually given birth and been through post partum depression would be able to truly empathize with and understand what Shield went through. And even then it comes down to -- whose business is it really? A mantra certainly Cruise has voiced over and over throughout the years when people speculated and commented on his own private life. Crack!!!

It should be even more unspeakable to go on record about people you once claimed to love as Hilary Swank did a recent Vanity Fair article revealing that her ex-husband, Chad Lowe's, substance abuse problem was a factor in the couple's breakup. "When I found out, it was such a shock because I never thought he'd keep something from me.," said Swank. But then she adds Lowe has been clean for three years already. "He's sober now and I know how difficult it's been, but I'm really proud of his sobriety." Okay, she filed for divorce in January and Lowe's been clean for three years. Even if you still want to lay the blame for the breakup on that, why tell all his business now? Where did the desire for privacy so cherished during the marriage suddenly go? And once you've aired your own dirty laundry you've pretty much just taken the lid off the hamper and given everyone carte blanche to wave around your smelly drawers, haven't you? Crack!!!

Now, Jennifer Lopez - who's dropped bombs on everyone from Gwyneth Paltrow to Madonna in interviews in the past - is sweating bullets about an upcoming tell-all book her ex-husband, Ojani Noa, is reportedly writing. And her attorneys filed a preliminary injunction to stop publication of the tome. Oops, there goes another star's glass house! Crack!!!

Interestingly enough, when reports of a split between her and longtime friend and "Simple Life" co-star, Nicole Richie, first surfaced last year Paris Hilton almost took the high road. But she couldn't quite find it on the map. Hilton initially released a terse statement that it was "no big secret that Nicole and I are no longer friends. Nicole knows what she did, and that's all I'm ever going to say about it." Not! Hilton later went on to clarify for all those wondering that, "I'm the nice one, she's the evil one. Some people change when they think they're a star or something and some people stay the same. I've always been the same and she's definitely not." Crack!!!!

For the future, Ms. Hilton et al, the directions to the high road - not to be confused with the high life - are to say nothing at all if you can't say something good. That's right love, mum's the word! Heed the stop sign. Do not yield to your mouth!

These and other celebs who believe it okay to point fingers and paint foibles on their peers, might want to take a refresher course on The Golden Rule - treat people like you want to be treated -- before those return volleys bring your own glass house down.

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