Craves His Mother-in-Law
Q: I have become very attracted to my 51-year-old mother-in-law. I also know she is attracted to me, though neither of us has acted on our feelings, and we don't plan to. I know that this is so wrong on so many levels, but I constantly have to fight back my feelings for her. I feel tortured whenever she is around. Is there any way out of this mess? -- Glen, 31
Dr. Susan: The situation you've found yourself in is wrong on even more levels than you know. Just imagine if you acted on your feelings and ended up with your wife, who would be your ex-wife, becoming your step-daughter. Yuck. Your feelings have a good chance of fading over time if you don't fan their flames. Don't hang out with your mother-in-law without your wife. Turn your warmth down a notch around her. Do not flirt. Ever. No funny little looks across the room. And you know what? Many of us have to fight our feelings for inappropriate others. You're a man: Deal with it.
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Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults.
Pamela G. Chollet, Ph.D.
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