I'm Not a Mind Reader
You know that moment when your sweetheart's mad and you're not sure what you've done this time? When you ask, "What's wrong?" Does she say, "You should know what's wrong!"
Like most guys, you might be thinking to yourself, "How could I know? I'm not a mind reader!" Whatever you do, dude, don't say that to her!
The Moment of Truth
When she's upset, she needs to know that you care. She wants to know that you pay attention to what she says and does.
And she thinks it should be really obvious by the things she's asked you to do in the past and the feelings she's expressed when you haven't stepped up. If you don't care enough to remember, that tells her she's not important to you.
That's why she says you should already know. She wants you to tune into her emotions, not what's streaming on TV. She wants you to listen to her, not the music on your phone. She wants you to communicate with her, not text your friends while she's fuming.
If you want things laid out for you, then listen and learn. What was wrong yesterday, and last week, and last month, probably has something to do with what's wrong today.
She sees patterns, and she wants you to see them too. If that's a problem for you, then you're in danger of losing your girl.
When she tells you something's bothering her about your relationship, take note. And maybe, just maybe, think a little longer about what you can do to make her feel better.
Then the next time she's huffing and puffing over something you can't figure out, you might have a revelation. Just like the last time, she's angry because you didn't go by the grocery store when she asked... You forgot to get dog food… You finished the milk and left the empty container in the fridge… You left the toilet seat up and she almost fell in when she got up in the middle of the night…
Pay More Attention
Whatever she complained about once, she's going to get upset about again if you keep doing it. It's not always the act that fuels the anger; it's the pattern of inconsiderate behavior.
The bottom line is that she wants to know you care. She wants to know you care enough to listen to her and make an effort to make her happy. You have to show her that you know her.
If you consistently don't, then she's going to be happy to walk out the door one of these days. You don't have to be a mind reader to figure that out, now do you?
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