Ever since we got our computer, my fifty-eight-year-old husband became obsessed with porn, then chat rooms, and then instant messaging. I questioned him and he said it made him relax. I couldn't stand the way it made me feel. He canít have sex himself anymore, but that's not what he told the women online. I spent some money and put a private spyware system in. It took me less than twenty-four hours to catch him. Then he said he would stop, but he didn't. I checked it the next day, and he was cybering with a girl. It destroyed me to find out, but I am glad I did. He knows I have it on the computer and has promised not to do it anymore. Cybering is cheating, demeaning, and it is adultery.