I have had several crushes on women, including one long-term crush in high school, but Iíve never had the guts to ask the high school girl or any of the others out. The only intimate relationship Iíve had has been with a guy. I met him in my freshman year of college, and we became friends first. He had a lot of problems adjusting to college and his sexuality that I tried to help him through. We poured our hearts out to each other and, as we got closer, the physical attraction became obvious. Eventually, he confessed that he had fallen in love with me. I didnít really know what else to do but encourage him as he was so vulnerable, and I was attracted to him. We never had sex, but we made out pretty much every time we were alone, and we ďexploredĒ each other pretty thoroughly. He ended up transferring, but I have seen him a few times since then. Each time we become intimate like before. Weíve halfheartedly encouraged each other to look for other relationships, but nothingís worked out for either of us. He is definitely gay, but for the most part, when I try to envision myself with other people, I usually envision myself with a woman. I value this guyís friendship highly, and obviously Iíve enjoyed the extra loviní. But I donít really know how to end that part of our relationship. This is going to sound really girly (no offense, ladies), but heís the sweetest guy Iíve ever met, and I couldnít imagine hurting him by taking that expectation away. Even though Iím still interested in dating women, the knowledge of what Iíve done makes that possibility extra awkward. Iím afraid Iím setting myself up for a ďBrokeback MountainĒ scenario only in the twenty-first century. I donít know what to do.