By Laura Snyder

Dating, like it or not, is a game. And the boys who learn how to play it will fair better with the fair sex than those who don’t. So you might as well start studying these now.

Ask Her Out Once, and Only Once

No matter how desperate you are to be with this woman, do not keep asking her if she’ll reconsider after she’s already said “no,” or even “I’m busy”. If she’s interested, “I’m busy” will quickly become “…but how about next week?”. If she’s not, you’re just wasting your time.

Location, Location, Location

So you’ve got a hot date and really want to wow her. Instead of trotting her out to some fancy-schmancy restaurant you’ve only read about, take her to one of your favorite hangouts instead. Think: where does everybody know your name? Where will you nab the best table? Get greeted by the owner? (If you have no such place, you might consider cultivating one). At best, she’ll be impressed by your display of social clout. And at least she’ll know you’re not a total recluse.

Stop Showing Off

Resist the temptation to impress her by throwing around cash, treating her to swanky dinners, buying expensive gifts, or even showering her with too many compliments. Sure, you should do a little of all those things, but the trick is not to overdo it. Otherwise, how will you know if it’s really you she’s into—not just your wallet or your ego massages.

Keep Out Your Pals

It’s hard enough getting to know each other without inviting your crew into your budding couplehood. You don’t need the pressure of getting the third degree about your intentions from her friends—or worry that she’s learning all kind of revealing information from your friends (and, we guarantee you, she’ll try).

Put Off Putting On the Moves

Yeah, we’re all progressive here and know that hooking up on a first date isn’t a death sentence for a new relationship. That said, we still think the sexual tension of a steamy goodnight kiss (followed with a firm, if longing, goodbye) is so much hotter. It will totally suck at the time, but you’ll be glad you waited later.