By Laura Snyder

We women love arguments. We get to talk about our feelings, try to understand each other better, and explain to you how you can be a better boyfriend. We know that conflicts are good for relationships.

Your man doesn't feel that way. He hates conflict (for many of the same reasons you think it's so great!). He'll do anything - from flying off the handle to giving you the silent treatment - to distract you or disarm you from doing battle.

Now that you're on to his game, here's how to duke it out - his way.

If He...Clams Up At the First Sign of Conflict.

The man who goes mute isn't always trying to avoid conflict. Some guys just need a little time to process his thoughts enough to open up. Tell him how you're feeling and then give him space before discussing it again later.

If He...Goes Into a Rage At the Tiniest Tiff

Is he just stressed out or is this how he handles conflict all the time? If it's in his genes to go postal, there's a limit to what you can do. Calmly tell him you're not going to be sucked into a screaming match and that you'll deal with him when he can temper his tantrums.

If He...Cracks Jokes.

There are worse ways of dealing with conflict than defusing the situation with humor. Even when it seems like he's mocking you, it's usually a (sometimes misguided) effort to get back on your good side. But don't cave to his comedian ways. Keep telling him what's gotten to you until he's ready to deal with you like an adult.

If He...Somehow Makes It Your Fault.

Most infuriating is the defensive dude who always finds a way to twist things around until it seems like your fault. Don't get into a game of finger-pointing and blame-laying. Instead, focus on how his actions made you feel and what you can do to find a solution together.