By Laura Snyder

It's your first date, maybe your second, and the person across the dinner table from you is drop-dead gorgeous (and that's about all you know at this point). But if it's lasting love you're looking for, handsome is as handsome does. Here are some sneaky ways to figure out if your new partner has potential.

Pet ownership. A great date will have a dog (or a cat) or a nephew they're nuts for...even a plant will do. A person who can get up and feed something every day is not afraid of commitment. You want to know this new honey can nurture and be there for something day in and day out.

Sense of humor. If you're not having fun, what's the point? Studies show laughter can defuse tension and keep problems in perspective. If you and your new honey can't share a few laughs together, it's unlikely you'll share more than a date or two.

A good resume. No, we don't mean a great career. A partner with potential has a history of relationships that last longer than a playoff season, can talk about past relationships without sounding resentful, and has learned something in the process.

Passion. Not just the between-the-sheets kind, but the kind that makes him or her really excited about something in life. Whether it's rock-climbing, volunteerism, or music, a passionate person will really add something to your life...and your bedroom.

Curiosity. A great date won't be content to just tell you about their lives, but will express a genuine interest in learning about what makes you tick. Just like a great relationship won't happen unless your partner wants to know your thoughts and ideas.

Sexual attraction. The way he or she looks, smells, talks, smiles...something - or everything - about this person should give you a little zing! of sexual excitement. Sex is the physical affirmation of love and if the chemistry's not there, all the potential in the world won't make up for it.