What sticks in your mind when you think about your relationship with your guy? The first time he put his arm around you? The first time you kissed?

Guys have different trigger points, so to speak. What he remembers most is very different from what you think about. Some of those memorable moments are good, some not so much.

The Naked Truth

First and foremost, he remembers the first time he saw you naked. That's a biggie for him. Guys like images, and this one - we hope - is a good one for him to flash back to on a regular basis. Of course, if things go as you want them to, he'll be reminded of that first glimpse whenever he gets a repeat view.

A Slip of the Tongue

Every once in a while, you can get too comfortable with your guy and speak your mind when frustrated. Careful! For example, if you're not in the mood, and you use a cute phrase to describe his unwanted advances, you might get more alone time than you bargained for. Using any words that imply that he's less than awesome in bed or leans toward the small size of average is a huge -- good word! -- mistake. Don't refer to his "mini-me," his "little guy," or his "fun-sized package." He'll never forget that slip, and he may never want to slip it to you again.

The Honest Truth

On the other hand, if you tell your guy what really turns you on about him, what really makes him special to you, he'll never forget it. It's easy to get in the habit of complaining about the toilet seat or the dishes or the empty carton of milk. But if you explicitly tell him why he makes your motor purr -- "when you do this...it makes me..." - especially if you do it in a voicemail or text message, that memory will surface again and again. And it's bound to get his engine revving extra hot for you!

It's human nature: People tend to remember critical or hurtful words for years - from classmates, teachers, parents, friends and lovers. So strive to verbalize the positives about your guy in specific terms, and hold your tongue when thinking about what's less than satisfactory about him.

Think of it as coaching. Do you respond better to being harangued about your shortcomings or to being complimented and encouraged to develop your strengths? Do yourself and your guy a huge - there it is again! - favor and show him that the size of your appreciation for him does matter!