By Laura Snyder

You don't have to love your partner's pals, but having them on your side can only be a good thing. Not to mention that it's a great way to learn about your lover....where they've been, where they're going, if you even want to come along for the ride.

Meeting the buddies can be a stressful experience, but it doesn't have to be a make-or-break event. Basically, your beloved's best buds are just another part of your relationship that you'll have to cope with. Here's how:

Make a Good Impression...Then Shut Up and Listen

Tempted to turn on the charm and try to establish immediate bonds with his or her buddies? Don't. Take a "less is more" mantra when it comes to meeting friends. Remember that you're supposed to be checking them out as much as they'll be checking you out. Instead of focusing on what they say about you, pay attention to how he behaves around them.

Slay the Green-Eyed Monster

Remember the laws of high school: close cliques are rarely welcoming to newcomers. Ignore any possessive vibes among his or her pals, and don't bring it up with your partner (unless you want to look like you're about a quart low on self-esteem). And don't be surprised if you're a little envious, too, of the history they share and the security they have in their - permanent - relationship. Overlook this, too, and give everyone a chance to adjust to new changed group dynamic.

Get Perspective

Most people surround themselves with friends who share similar values and attitudes. But, chances are, your beloved has at least one chum who'll make you wonder what on earth your darling dreamboat could possibly have in common with such a beast. But it's not the friend you hate, it's the aspects of your partner that that friend represents (like the stay-out-late, hard-drinking flirty side). Ask your partner why he or she is such good pals with this person and you may see a softer side to the hard-partying drunk.

Relax

Even if your romance is on the fast track, it will take time to make inroads with his inner circle. And in the end, they won't be responsible for the success or failure of your love affair. That's up to you.