The Elusive Simultaneous Orgasm

The simultaneous orgasm - despite its apparent ease on film and in paperbacks - is a bit like rubbing your belly and patting your head at the same time. For women, it's often hard enough just to get to orgasm, much less to time it with some other person (who's generally trying to hold himself back). As long as you're both having a good time, why ruin the moment by trying to synchronize your watches with your passionate peaks?

All Orgasms Are Created Equal

Though the heroes and heroines in romance novels always seem to share earthshaking moments of passion, real orgasms can vary in degree from no more than a pleasant sneeze to screaming-down-the-house ecstasy. Realize that every time won't blow your (or your partner's) mind, and happily accept them in any form they happen to arise in.

A Good Orgasm Hits the (G) Spot

Only about one in four women can have an orgasm from straightforward, missionary-position intercourse, yet the myth still persists that great orgasms only start with the letter "G." The G-spot - more an area than a spot - does exist, despite Dr. Ruth's rantings to the contrary, but it's not worth stressing over if you can't find it. There isn't any difference in physical measurements of the two orgasms.

Good Sex Always Ends in Orgasm

Maybe it's our goal-oriented society that makes us think that great sex has to end a particular way. Here's a revelation: You can have a perfectly great time and not orgasm at all. And you'll have way more fun when you start looking at sex as a journey and not a destination. Take more than a few detours along the way. Happy travels!