By Laura Snyder

Hey, even the most salacious sex kitten has a bad day. Wondering why your bedroom bad girl has been replaced by an inimical ice queen? Here’s what she really means when she says, “Not tonight, dear.”

She’s Mad as Hell

We just can’t be close to you when we’re fuming, and since we’re such masters at hiding our resentment, you probably won’t even know when we are. Want to see if the reason you’re not doin’ it is because you’re in the doghouse? Ask her how she’s doing. Her guaranteed answer will be a falsely cheery, clipped “Fine.” But encourage her to get it all out – so you can get on with the make-up sex.

She’s Busy

If she’s tied down with work, the gym, cleaning up after you, and getting dinner on the table, don’t blame her if sex suddenly looks like just another obligation on the old to-do list. Pick up your ratty socks and have dinner ready for her for a change. She’ll probably be ready to thank you later.

She’s Feeling Unsexy

Maybe it’s a bad hair day or her favorite jeans are feeling a little too snug. It’s a pretty simple fact – people who feel sexy want to have sex; people who don’t feel it, don’t. Give her a long backrub and some (genuine) compliments and see if she doesn’t start to see things your way.

You – Or the Sex – Is Boring

It’s hard for her to psyche herself up for passion when she can give you an exact play-by-play before you’ve even stripped down to your skivvies. If you think your love life has gotten more routine than raunchy, spring something new on her.