Good Age Range for Dating?
I'm approaching 50, divorced with no kids, and am considering dating women young enough to still start a family. I love kids. I'm having difficulty defining an appropriate age range to target. What should I do? -- Stew, 49
If you find someone compatible who wants to have children with you, what will matter is how flexible you are as a couple, not your actual ages. If you approach women specifically with the intent to use them as baby machines to catch up on this missed area of your life, some of them will run. Others, though, may find you a perfect match. If you try an online dating service, state your age parameters as widely as possible, and see who turns up seeking someone as old as you are.
It would be fine if you could meet women in a natural context, pursuing activities that interest you both. Some women are able and willing to have a child in their early forties these days (although the risks are higher). A 20-year age difference might present an added challenge, but if you're both mature and realistic and get to know each other and don't have wildly romantic notions of what to expect, it could work out beautifully. Of course, if you widen your search to include women closer to your age, you're likely to connect with women who already have children, and that could solve your problem.
NOTE: The information contained herein is provided for information purposes, and not intended as a substitute for advice or treatment that may or should be prescribed by your physician or recommended by your therapist.