A: First, I'm so sorry for your loss. Every one of the emotions in your "bundle of feelings" is no doubt similar to what's experienced by many of those left behind by an untimely death. I recommend you find someone you can talk to, friend or paid counselor, to validate your emotions. You didn't give a hint as to why you're so angry, but since you can't go back in time to change what happened, and you can't ever tell your husband how you feel (whether it's him you're angry at or some doctor or drunk driver or ?), you must find another way to sort out those feelings. Consider keeping a journal as a safe place to explore your emotions.

Remember, any death takes a while to process, and with a lot of unfinished business left behind, your emotions may be messy and troubled for some time yet. Those young widows/widowers groups at local hospitals are helpful for many people. All of us at some time have to come to an acceptance of reality, as infuriating as it is. I'm not saying you have to push yourself to forgive anyone. That may come with time.