Only "Friends" Forever?
This girl and I have become good friends. I really like her and I asked her how she felt about me. She told me she is not good with relationships, and she has driven the other guys crazy. She said she likes me too much for that to happen to me and, I guess, hurt the relationship we have. I don't know how exactly I should take that statement. Does it mean she likes our relationship and she doesn't want to hurt what he have now, or does she want us to get to know each other better and maybe something can happen later. What does she mean by her statement? -- Chad, 19
I vote for choice A. She has said exactly what she means: she's fine the way things are with you, and she doesn't want to mess that up by adding a layer of romantic intimacy. Then everyone's hormones get all squishy and no one uses their best judgment. Plus if a girl tells you she has driven men crazy (and not in a good way), than believe her and look elsewhere for love. She's telling you she just wants to be friends. Period.
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.,
is a social psychologist and relationship expert. She is a bestselling and award-winning author whose latest book is "Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way." She has written for and been quoted in Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, Family Circle, Women's Health & Fitness, YM, USA Today, The Los Angeles Times, Child, and many others. She also consults and teaches writing online. Read her complete bio!
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